Month: November 2014

5 Things I Learned From My Girlfriends

I recently spent a weekend with nine of my high school girlfriends. We haven’t all been together as a group since graduation day in 1998, and what started as a “wouldn’t it be nice if” idea, turned out to be a weekend I will never forget.

A few reflections from the weekend:

1. Friendships are a beautiful thing. And to be totally cliché, they are like a good wine, and get better with time. They are worth savoring, taking time for, celebrating, sacrificing for and fighting to keep.

These nine women are some of the most amazing, beautiful inside and out, courageous, loving, talented people I know. I appreciated all of them when we spent our days worrying about algebra tests and prom attire. I so deeply value them now as we each juggle schedules and demands, trying to find balance in work and family and fun.

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2.  Taking a break is a good thing. Doing it with long-time girlfriends is even better.
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3. We, as people, are all more the same than different.

Life is….life. It’s filled with ups and downs, beauty and challenge and victories and heartbreak. Fear and uncertainty, dreams come true and dreams unrealized. It’s filled with love and grief and happiness and joy and sorrow.
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Piled on a king bed in a hotel room and around the table at breakfast and over drinks at dinner, we each shared our stories. Stories that included vastly different settings and characters and plots, all shared similar themes: that we’ve all lived life and these experiences, while wildly different, make us a lot more the same than different.

We’ve all been scared, we’ve all faced fears, we’ve all taken chances on love and people and opportunities. We’ve all experienced success and we’ve all been knocked off our horses a time or two. But we all want the best for each other, to experience what life has to offer, and to make a positive contribution in the world.

4.    You’re never too old for a ride on the swings or a spin on a roller coaster or a turn on the log ride.

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5.    You can only be loved to the extent that you’re known. And there is no more perfect place to disclose who you really are, than to a group of loving, accepting friends.

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So I close this note with a tribute to nine of the most amazing women in my life. To each of you: I’m simply a better me because of your honesty, friendship, laughter and love over the years. xo

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